Ok, so what to do here:
Background: Had feelings for this girl for years, but never let her know, or told her, as I know she values our friendship greatly; she’s told me on numerous occasions that she’s thankful that our friendship has been the one unbreakable male relationship in her life. I mean the girl memorized all my fav foods, and knows waay more about me than any past gf know.
Basically we’re best friends, so I’ve protected her and the friendship by never letting on. oh ya and I have had gf (as she has had bf) off and on for the duration of the friendship.
Recently she got a job and moved away, and we’ve all but stopped talking. I figured at this point, it may be healthy for me to delete her from my life. So her phone number is gone, mutual friends cut, social networks cut, etc.
Well it’s been about a month since we last talked, and im guessing she has no clue that I’m trying to get over the feelings (and move on) as she has no clue about them.
Well she started texting me asking to catch up on life (yesterday and today) and I haven’t responded.
I actually got the courage to tell her that
I’m trying to get over feelings for her and need time & distance for that to happen. Course, there’s no going back to being good friends once i say that, it’s like nuking a friendship, one of my oldest friendships.
Also, I’m not gonna lie, like most optimistic people, I’ve always held out hope she felt the same way. I doubt it, but it’s possible she does.
So do I tell the truth, push the button and nuke the friendship?
Or do I just keep on sailing straight, risking the dangers of being sunk (i.e. Being hopelessly in love) in her sea of amazingness?
Ugh. I don’t know what to do. I didn’t have her number so it took a few texts before I realized it was her textin me.
I typed out the “Nuke” option, but didn’t send it, as it didn’t feel right ending a friendship via text.
Oh man..any advice, world?